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Think you’re ready for a child? Think again

So to help you make a decision, here is the opposite to what you’ll see on the majority of the Internet: several reasons to hold off having a child until later.

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Having a child could be one of the best decisions of your life. Starting a family is a common goal among many people in the world, and it all starts with that one pregnancy test that returns positive. However, having a child could be one of the worst decisions you’ll ever make if you aren’t properly prepared for it.

So to help you make a decision, here is the opposite to what you’ll see on the majority of the Internet: several reasons to hold off having a child until later.

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THE RESPONSIBILITY

First of all, keep in mind that you have to be a responsible person in order to raise a child. Are you ready to work extra hours to make more money, get rid of your fancy car for a family vehicle and child seats and sacrifice time with your friends to raise your child? Or perhaps you simply can’t bear the thought of waking up at 4 AM in the morning to sing your baby to sleep. If you aren’t a responsible person now, then hold off having a child until later on in your life.

IT WAS AN ACCIDENT

Did your pills not work? Did your condom break during intercourse? Perhaps these things lead to a baby, and out of respect for the child or your partner, you’ve decided to keep it. Keeping a child that wasn’t meant to be isn’t the best of ideas and it’s a decision that can come to bite you later, or you could end up raising a child that doesn’t feel loved, wanted, and you might snap and even call them a mistake.

Don’t make the child suffer, consider your options such as giving them up to an adoption clinic or abortion instead of forcing yourself to raise a child that was never meant to be.

YOU PREFER FREEDOM

Many people don’t want to have children because they simply prefer freedom. They don’t want to have to consider a child whenever they go out or have friends around, and they don’t want to be tied down. Having a child is a big responsibility and commitment, and if you aren’t 100% ready to settle down with your partner, then it could lead to a lot of arguments, hate, and disagreements.

Ensure that you are absolutely sure that you want a partner and a child before you conceive a child, or else it might become the worst decision of your life.

FINANCIALLY PREPARED

Raising a child isn’t cheap. You need to make a lot of money and you need to invest a lot in your child. From buying clothes and food to paying for their college tuition, if you aren’t financially stable with a well-paying job, then don’t try to have a child. You’ll end up disappointing them, yourself, and everyone around you because you’re unable to fulfill their needs.

There are usually some child-care savings and services that you can use to help you provide for your child, but it’s always a good idea to be self-sufficient and have a well-paying job in order to provide for your child.

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Tips for great grilling

Follow these easy tips for even tastier meals.

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Grilling is so fun and delicious – clearly a high point of any summer.  Follow these easy tips for even tastier meals.

  1. Start with a clean grill. 
    Starting with a clean grill will allow the flavor of whatever you’re cooking to shine through and not mix with flavors left behind from whatever you grilled last. It also helps prevent food from sticking. Clean the grill with a sturdy brush while it’s hot, as it will be much easier to clean.
  2. Oil the grill grates. 
    Oiling the grill grates will help prevent lean meats from sticking to the grill. Pour oil on a paper towel, then use tongs to rub the oil on the grill grates – don’t use cooking spray as it will flare up.  Or try this fun grill hack: cut a potato in half and rub the cut side of the potato on hot grill grates, this will make the grill naturally non-stick!
  3. Always make sure your grill is hot. 
    Adding food to a hot grill will give it a wonderful sear on the outside, while keeping it perfectly juicy in the center. It will prevent food from sticking to the grill, and it’s important for cooking safety. 
  4. Use an instant-read meat thermometer to check for a safe and desired temperature. 
    You always want to make sure that food on the grill is cooked to a safe temperature. Use an instant read thermometer to make sure meat is cooked to the proper temperature. Food safety is extremely important, as undercooked food can cause illness.
  5. Use a grill basket. 
    For foods that might fall through the grates and cause flare-ups, use Basquettes. These are incredibly handy for grilling vegetables, seafood, fish, kabobs, stuffed sliders, cheese and fruit. You can use Basquettes with a top so you can flip a whole basket of food over in one motion.
  6. Always let meat rest after removing it from the grill. 
    Depending on the meat, allow it to rest for at least 5-15 minutes before slicing into it. A large piece of meat, such as a tri tip will need more rest time than a smaller steak, like a tenderloin. Resting the meat allows the juices to redistribute throughout the meat for a juicier, more tender piece of meat and tenting under foil helps keep it warm.
  7. Experiment with different cooking techniques.
    Grills can easily become smokers or rotisseries! Make a flattened foil packet of aromatic hardwood and pierce it a few times. Use your Basquettes with the legs on and slip the foil packet beneath. Or put the baskets together and make a rotisserie cage for delicious chicken!
  8. Know whether to cook your foods directly or indirectly. 
    Smaller pieces of meat, like a New York strip steak, that take 20 minutes or less to cook should be grilled over direct heat. Large pieces of meat, like ribs, that take more than 20 minutes to cook should be grilled over indirect heat.
  9.  Add sauce to meat at the end of the grilling process. 
    Adding a glaze or barbecue sauce, especially one with sugar, too early in the cooking process can cause your meat to burn and stick to the grill. If you plan to baste meat with a sauce or glaze, do it in the last 5 minutes of cooking, if the total cooking time is 30 minutes or less. If the total cooking time is over 30 minutes, baste the meat in the last 15 minutes of cooking time.

Bonus tips!

  • Never flatten meat with a spatula when it’s on the grill. This will release all of the juicy flavor in the middle of the meat.
  • Avoid putting cold foods on the grill. Bringing meat to room temperature for 30 minutes will help it cook more evenly.
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Dad tips we take for granted but go a long way

With all the pressure that comes with responsibilities, dads also need to look after their own wellbeing too.

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There is no one-size-fits all way to being a father, but most working dads want to do the best to support their loved ones. With all the pressure that comes with these responsibilities, dads also need to look after their own wellbeing too. 

Donato Avellana is the Health and Wellbeing Lead for the Vibe Team at Canva Philippines, and as a father himself, he acknowledges the importance of work-life balance. He has helped build programs at Canva that empower employees to have a healthy work-life balance, with holistic programs for all domains of wellness. Taking his learnings from this, he shares some helpful and practical tips to help dads to develop healthy habits that can boost their happiness at work and at home. 

1. Rest and recover well

Rest and relaxation is crucial to improve our overall health. Try your best to get at least 7 hours of sleep, go to bed an hour before you go to sleep, and stay away from your TV or mobile phone, as several studies show that the blue light from screens can disrupt sleep. Sleep is often a neglected component of overall well-being, but this is where the body repairs itself to get ready for another day. Remember that you deserve to rest.

2. Start your day with a cold shower 

Showering can also offer more benefits than many realise.  By using water that is a little cold, you can improve blood circulation, with the lower temperature causing blood to run to the skin’s surface. Good blood circulation plays an important role in our health for proper nutrient distribution throughout our body.

This is also a good time for dads to have their ‘me’ time. Breathing exercises are a great way to start the day, by offering the opportunity to regroup and reflect. 

3. Move more, make it a habit

The health benefits of movement have been scientifically proven time and time again. Your body is connected to your brain and your movement habits can positively impact how you think and feel. Inactivity can make you feel sluggish and tired, making it hard to find motivation and deliver on responsibilities.

Add regular walks, stand often, or follow stretching routines that you can commit to during the day. Taking time for a short 10-15-minute walk is a great way to have a mental and physical break.

4. Eat smart: practice a mindful eating habit. 

We have been educated about what healthy eating is since we were kids. Eating intuitively on a regular schedule is very important. Eating with no structure creates mindless eating that can lead to poor nutrition choices. Think of nourishing your body with healthy fuel for efficient performance instead of just eating. Eat a variety of whole foods, have fruits and vegetables, and hydrate smartly.

5. It’s okay to ask for help

This shortlist might not be easy for everyone, so I encourage dads to seek help when they need it. You might want to start at home with your spouse, ask for help from co-workers, peers, fellow fathers, professionals such as your doctor.

Showing appreciation to your father

If you’re still looking for heart-felt gift ideas for your dad, you can browse through Canva for free design ideas and inspiration. 

Make your dad, grandfather or any other special figure feel loved and appreciated by designing personalized cards. A wide variety of photos, customizable templates, and full-color professional layouts are available. You can also find Filipino templates by changing the language settings to Tagalog and searching for the word ‘tatay’.

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Food safety when eating outdoors

Follow the tips below to keep your food safe when eating outdoors.

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June 20th marks the official start of summer, which means warm, sunny days perfect for picnics and barbecues.  Unfortunately, this time of year is also a favorite for foodborne bacteria that cause foodborne illness (also known as food poisoning), which multiply faster at temperatures between 40°F and 140°F. 

Follow the tips below to keep your food safe when eating outdoors.

Before your picnic

  • Defrost meat, poultry, and seafood in the refrigerator or by submerging sealed packages in cold water. You can also microwave-defrost, but only if the food will be grilled immediately afterward.
  • Never reuse marinade that touched raw foods unless you boil it first or set some of the marinade aside before marinating food to use for sauce later.
  • Marinate foods in the fridge, not the countertop.
  • Wash all produce before eating, even if you plan to peel it. The knife you use to peel it can carry bacteria into the part you eat. Fruits and vegetables that are pre-cut or peeled should be refrigerated or kept on ice to maintain quality and safety.
  • If your picnic site doesn’t offer clean water access, bring water and soap or pack moist disposable towelettes for cleaning surfaces and hands.
  • Don’t forget to pack a food thermometer!

Packing coolers

  • Place food from the refrigerator directly into an insulated cooler immediately before leaving home.
  • Use ice or ice packs to keep your cooler at 40 °F or below.
  • Pack raw meat, poultry, and seafood in a separate cooler, or wrap it securely and store at the bottom of the cooler where the juices can’t drip onto other foods. Place beverages in a separate cooler; this will offer easy drink access while keeping perishable food coolers closed.
  • Avoid loading coolers in the trunk of the car, as it can collect heat. Once at the picnic site, keep food in coolers until serving time (out of direct sun) and avoid opening the lids often.

Grilling

  • Have clean utensils and platters available. Cook meat, poultry, and seafood to the right temperatures ─ use a food thermometer to be sure (see Safe Minimum Cooking Temperatures Chart). Keep cooked meats hot at 140 °F or warmer until serving time — set them to the side of the grill rack to keep them hot.
  • When removing foods from the grill, place them on a clean platter. Never use the same platter and utensils for cooked food that you used for raw meat, poultry, or seafood.

Time and temperature 

Don’t let hot or cold food sit in the “Danger Zone” (between 40 °F and 140 °F) for more than 2 hours – or 1 hour if the outdoor temperature is above 90 °F. If they do, throw them away.

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