If there’s one thing that lot of people are incredibly bad at doing, it’s asking for help. A lot of the time this comes from the idea that, if you’re not dealing with a problem completely on your own, then that’s a sign of some kind of weakness.
Of course, anyone can see that asking for help is far from a sign of weakness. In fact, it’s one of the most difficult things that you can do. If anything, it’s a sign of genuine strength and courage. Of course, just because something is difficult doesn’t mean that it’s not important. No one can go through life without the support of those around them.
With that in mind, here are some ways that you can ask for help.
TALK TO PROFESSIONALS
A lot of people are afraid to speak to any professionals when they’re in trouble because it often seems like the ultimate admission of failure. However, it’s incredibly important to understand that there are plenty of issues in life that you cannot fix on your own and that are way out of the realm of expertise of your friends and family. Talking therapies and substance abuse resources are in place with trained professionals who can offer you the help that you really need. Not only that but sometimes it can be incredibly hard to admit to those closest to you that you’re in trouble. It can often be much easier to talk to a professional who isn’t directly involved in your personal life.
ADMIT THERE’S A PROBLEM
Of course, before you can actually ask for help from anyone, you have to admit to yourself that you need help in the first place. Far too many people spend their lives in denial over the fact that they need support from other people. Not only that but they will refuse to acknowledge any issues in the first place, closing the door completely on the chance for them to get the help that they need.
By admitting that there’s a problem, you’ve taken the first step towards making some real, important, positive changes in your life. It’s not always easy, especially since it sometimes means that you’ll need to acknowledge your own involvement in your issues. However, you’ll find a lot of pressure is taken off once you’re no longer trying to convince yourself and the world around you that there’s nothing wrong.
BE WILLING TO BE VULNERABLE
If you really want help, then you have to be willing to make yourself vulnerable. Whether this is to your loved ones or to a professional is irrelevant. There is in inherent vulnerability to asking for help that a lot of people are reluctant to demonstrate. The problem there is that if you’re putting up barriers all the time, not only can no one see that something is wrong, but no one can reach you to actually give you the help that you really need.
You might think that you’re protecting yourself, but in reality, you’re just making everything that much harder.