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Too much for some, just right for me – The truth about dating while plus-size
What is dating like for a plus-size woman? We don’t get the fairytale, the montage-worthy meet-cute in the bookstore, or the sweet swipe-rights with guys who use words like “connection” and “vibes.” What we get is a mixed bag of awkward encounters, accidental comedy, the occasional ghosting, and sometimes, someone who sees us as the whole damn package.
By: A Curvy Queen Who’s Seen It All
Let me be real with you: dating as a plus-size woman isn’t for the faint of heart. We don’t get the fairytale, the montage-worthy meet-cute in the bookstore, or the sweet swipe-rights with guys who use words like “connection” and “vibes.” What we get is a mixed bag of awkward encounters, accidental comedy, the occasional ghosting, and sometimes, someone who sees us as the whole damn package—not just the size of it.
I’m 33, a size 20, and I live in a city where everyone seems to be on a green juice cleanse or training for a marathon. My idea of a perfect day includes a cheese board, a crime documentary, and wearing something soft and oversized. I’ve been dating online for years now—Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, even a brief stint on Bigger Lover (don’t judge). I’ve had first dates that turned into second dates, and others that ended before the appetizer even came. But through it all, I’ve learned some hard truths about dating while plus-size.
The Fetish Factor
Let’s start with the obvious: there are guys out there who fetishize plus-size women. They love our bodies—but only in private. They send you those thirsty DMs like, “I’ve always had a thing for thick girls.”
I used to think that was a compliment. But it’s not, not when it’s the first thing they lead with, not when you realize they don’t care about your name, your career, or your sense of humor. Just your body.
I once met a guy off Tinder who spent our entire date talking about how much he “loved curves” and how he’d “never dated a big girl before.” He kept asking if I was into feederism (I had to Google it when I got home). I never heard from him again, which was fine—I didn’t need to be someone’s body experiment.
The Grateful Gambit
Then there’s this weird idea that plus-size women are supposed to be grateful for attention, as if someone choosing to date us is some charitable act. It’s subtle sometimes, but oh, it’s there.
I had a guy once tell me, over drinks, “I like girls who are a little bigger. They try harder, you know? They’re just more appreciative.”
I blinked. Tried harder at what? Breathing through my rage?
I wanted to ask him if he’d ever considered that maybe I’m not grateful to be on a date with him either. But instead, I left.
Online Dating – A Love-Hate Situation
The apps are their own beast. My profile is cute, funny, and unapologetically me. I mention that I love bookstores, brunch, and body positivity. I always include full-body pics, because I refuse to trick anyone—but I also refuse to hide.
And still, I get messages like: “You’re actually really pretty for a big girl.”
Sir, would you be willing to grow a personality for someone you really liked?
But it’s not all trash. I’ve had some sweet, genuine conversations and some fun dates. Not every guy is clueless. Some are kind, open, and emotionally intelligent.
The good, the bad, and the big truth
Dating while fat is exhausting. You have to weed through people who want to fix you, people who want to hide you, people who only want to sleep with you, and people who see you as their emotional support girlfriend.
But I’ve also never been more sure of who I am. I’ve learned to ask better questions, to take up space, and to walk away when someone doesn’t see my worth.
I’ve cried after bad dates, yes. I’ve called friends from bathroom stalls and whispered, “Why is this so hard?” But I’ve also danced in my kitchen with someone who made me feel radiant, kissed under streetlights, and been told, with complete sincerity, “You’re the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met.”
The truth is, being plus-size in the dating world means you see people for who they really are, faster. It forces you to develop an inner filter. You learn to walk away without guilt. And when you do meet someone who loves you not in spite of your size but as a part of your magic? It’s that much sweeter.
So to every plus-size woman out there who’s ever felt invisible, unworthy, or too much: you’re not too much. You might just be too real for the wrong person.
Keep showing up. Keep swiping. And keep loving yourself like you deserve to be loved—because trust me, you absolutely do.
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Heart disease risk may start in the womb, study finds
Young adults whose mothers had high blood pressure during pregnancy — either pregnancy-associated hypertension, pre-eclampsia or eclampsia — had more signs of early arterial injury, higher blood pressure, higher body mass index and higher blood sugar than peers.
A child’s future heart health may be partially shaped before they are born, reports a new Northwestern Medicine study that found pregnancy complications are linked to poorer cardiovascular health in offspring more than 20 years later.
The study found that young adults whose mothers had high blood pressure during pregnancy — either pregnancy-associated hypertension, pre-eclampsia or eclampsia — had more signs of early arterial injury, higher blood pressure, higher body mass index and higher blood sugar than peers.
The authors said the study adds to growing evidence that cardiovascular risk may be transmitted across generations through a combination of biological, environmental and behavioral factors.
“That means we must make sure people maintain good health from childhood into young adulthood, so that if or when someone becomes a parent, they pass on the best opportunity for good health to their children,” said study senior author Dr. Nilay Shah, assistant professor of medicine in the division of cardiology at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine.
How the study was conducted
Shah and colleagues evaluated nearly 1,350 mother-child pairs from the Future of Families and Child Well-Being Study, which enrolled mothers and children at birth between 1998 and 2000 across 20 U.S. cities. The children were then followed into adulthood.
Using delivery hospitalization records, the Northwestern scientists first identified whether mothers experienced pregnancy complications, including high blood pressure during pregnancy, gestational diabetes (high blood sugar during pregnancy) or preterm birth (before 37 weeks of pregnancy).
The three pregnancy complications are on the rise, and affect almost one in four pregnancies in the U.S.
The research team then analyzed cardiovascular health of offspring at age 22, using blood pressure measurements, blood testing, body mass index assessments and carotid artery ultrasounds to look for signs of artery injury.
Finally, the scientists compared participants with and without exposure to each pregnancy complication and adjusted for factors like income, education, difference in birth weight and smoking during pregnancy.
Key findings
At around age 22, participants whose mothers had high blood pressure during pregnancy had:
- Higher body mass index (+2.8 BMI points)
- Higher diastolic blood pressure (+2.3 mm Hg)
- Higher blood sugar levels (+0.2% HbA1c)
- Thicker artery walls (~0.02 mm)
While the difference in artery wall thickness may seem small, the study authors said it corresponds to roughly three to five years of additional vascular aging. That means arteries looked older and less healthy than expected, which raises the risk of future heart disease.
Other pregnancy complications also showed some long-term effect:
- Exposure to gestational diabetes was linked to worse blood pressure and some evidence of artery thickening
- Being born preterm was associated with higher blood sugar levels
‘Most heart disease is preventable’
With pregnancy complications on the rise in the U.S., Shah said the study provides compelling evidence that improving health before and during pregnancy could help reduce heart disease risk in the next generation.
“There is evidence that both parents’ health at the time of conception and during pregnancy influences a child’s health,” he said. “So, promoting health from an early age, like exercising regularly, eating healthfully, never smoking and getting enough sleep, is not just meant for an individual, but doing so may help future generations be healthier, too.”
Shah also emphasizes that risk is not destiny.
“The good news is that most heart disease is preventable,” he said. “If you experienced high blood pressure or high blood sugar during pregnancy, or your child was born early, it does not absolutely mean that your child will have worse health as adults. But I would encourage you to pay attention now to your child’s health behaviors.
“What children learn in childhood sets the stage for their health across their lives. If you are wondering whether your children’s behaviors are healthy, or are considering making a change, please speak with your child’s pediatrician for advice and guidance.”
Other Northwestern co-authors include Emily Lam, Abigail Gauen, Dr. Sadiya Khan, Alexa Freedman and Norrina Allen.
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Viagra could hold key to halting Peyronie’s disease
Combining two widely prescribed drug classes could provide the first effective treatment for early-stage Peyronie’s disease.
Combining two widely prescribed drug classes could provide the first effective treatment for early-stage Peyronie’s disease, according to a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.
Peyronie’s disease (PD) is caused by the development of fibrotic scar tissue within the penis, leading to pain, curvature, sexual dysfunction and, in many cases, significant psychological distress. It affects an estimated 10 per cent of men during their lifetime, but despite its prevalence, treatment options are limited, particularly in the early phase of the condition.
The study, carried out by Anglia Ruskin University (ARU) and University College London Hospital (UCLH), found that combining phosphodiesterase type 5 (PDE5) inhibitors such as sildenafil (Viagra) and tadalafil (Cialis) with selective oestrogen receptor modulators (SERMs), including tamoxifen, may slow or even stop disease progression when given early.
The clinical study, carried out by Professor David Ralph of UCLH, evaluated outcomes in 133 men diagnosed with acute Peyronie’s disease who were treated with the drug combination for three months. Their results were compared with a smaller group of patients receiving standard care, which included giving vitamin E or no treatment at all. Standard care did not include surgery.
The study found 43 per cent of patients on the combination experienced an improvement in penile curvature, almost three times higher than in the standard‑care group (15 per cent).
At the start of treatment, 65 per cent of patients in the combination group reported pain during erections. After three months, that figure had fallen to just 1.5 per cent. By comparison, pain prevalence in the standard‑care group fell from 50 per cent to 27 per cent.
The clinical findings build on earlier laboratory work led by Professor Selim Cellek at ARU’s Fibrosis Research Group. Over the course of several years, Professor Cellek’s team screened 1,953 FDA‑approved drugs to identify compounds capable of blocking the transformation of fibroblasts into myofibroblasts, the key cells responsible for fibrosis. PDE5 inhibitors and SERMs emerged as particularly effective, and when used together demonstrated an effect greater than either drug alone.
Currently, there are no approved oral therapies proven to prevent early disease progression, forcing patients in the acute phase to wait until the condition stabilises before they can be offered treatments including injections or surgery.
Professor Cellek said: “Positive findings from this pilot clinical study validate our drug‑screening approach in the lab. It shows how repurposing well‑known medicines can accelerate progress in areas of unmet clinical need.
“Because both PDE5 inhibitors and SERMs are already widely used in clinical practice and have established safety profiles, the approach could be readily adoptable if confirmed in larger studies.
“These results suggest that early intervention targeting fibrosis could change how we treat Peyronie’s disease. Repurposing existing drugs may allow us to move from managing symptoms to modifying the disease itself.”
Professor David Ralph, Professor of Urology at UCLH, said: “This paper confirms the basic science research with regards to halting the progression of Peyronie’s disease. In previous papers we have noted that tamoxifen and PDE5 inhibitors inhibit the transformation of fibroblasts into myofibroblasts and therefore contraction of the plaque.
“This has now been put into clinical practice where this paper shows that when tamoxifen and a PDE5 inhibitor are combined, there is statistically less progression of the disease and improvement in curvature compared to the control arm. This is where from bench to clinical practice prevails and hopefully now a prospective clinical trial can be initiated.”
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Healthier brains may be more resilient to early Alzheimer’s disease
Maintaining good overall brain health may help reduce the impact of Alzheimer’s‑related changes on cognitive function.
A healthy brain may help protect thinking and memory skills from the early effects of Alzheimer’s disease, a new study has found.
Dementia is currently the leading cause of death in Australia and Alzheimer’s disease is its most common form — accounting for more than 70% of cases.
Alzheimer’s is a progressive brain disease in which cognitive abilities gradually decline, leading to impaired memory and thinking skills.
However, some people maintain high levels of cognitive function even though their brains show early signs of the disease. Specifically, some older adults have Alzheimer’s‑related brain pathology, but no noticeable cognitive problems.
The study, Cognitive and Brain Reserve as Modifiers of Early Alzheimer Disease–Related Cognitive Vulnerability, was a collaboration between Murdoch University and AdventHealth, and investigated why some people remain cognitively healthy despite early Alzheimer’s‑related brain changes.
“Our study looked at why some brains were more resilient than others, and whether factors such as peoples’ education, socioeconomic status and health of their brain made a difference,” said lead author Dr Kelsey Sewell, from Murdoch University’s School of Allied Health.
“Understanding these protective factors could help us develop earlier and more targeted strategies to minimise the effects of the disease on memory and thinking skills,” she said.
The research team analysed data from more than 600 older adults in the United States aged 65 to 80, who were living independently and had no signs of dementia or memory impairment.
They used blood tests and MRI scans to assess early Alzheimer’s‑related changes and overall brain health, examined life and social factors such as years of education, income, savings and financial security, and conducted cognitive tests measuring memory, attention, processing speed, working memory and executive function.
“Our main finding was that maintaining good overall brain health may help reduce the impact of Alzheimer’s‑related changes on cognitive function,” Dr Sewell said.
“We also observed early evidence that people with a higher socioeconomic status may be less affected by Alzheimer’s-related changes when it comes to memory, although more research is needed to confirm this relationship.”
Dr Sewell said the main takeaway for the public was to do everything you can to maintain a healthy brain.
“Things like exercise, maintaining a healthy diet, sleeping well, and finding new cognitive challenges can help to maintain a healthy brain. It is never too late, or too early to start,” she said .
“These results underscore the need for coordinated action across research, policy, and industry to design environments that support healthier choices and promote brain health at a population level.”
The data collection for this study was led by researchers at AdventHealth in Orlando, Florida.
The paper, Cognitive and Brain Reserve as Modifiers of Early Alzheimer Disease–Related Cognitive Vulnerability, was published in the journal Neurology.
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