{"id":1453,"date":"2016-04-29T19:11:07","date_gmt":"2016-04-29T19:11:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/?p=1453"},"modified":"2016-04-29T19:11:07","modified_gmt":"2016-04-29T19:11:07","slug":"supporting-friends-going-gets-tough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/supporting-friends-going-gets-tough\/","title":{"rendered":"Supporting your friends when the going gets tough"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you need some guidance on supporting a friend through a tough time? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then read on for three scenarios, and how you can be the best friend possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/Supporting-a-friend.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1454\" src=\"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/Supporting-a-friend.jpg\" alt=\"Supporting a friend\" width=\"622\" height=\"432\" srcset=\"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/Supporting-a-friend.jpg 622w, http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/Supporting-a-friend-300x208.jpg 300w, http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/Supporting-a-friend-50x35.jpg 50w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 622px) 100vw, 622px\" \/><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/bennyseidelman\/16125608691\/in\/photolist-qyXXE4-dzLYZY-kwFgL2-di2M5h-a7akBy-4W74DN-522fah-8KQTkv-8H6ja4-bqzFqV-7tDDkf-8H5Nuh-j6BkYC-raoZFh-6tszg3-6P6LRb-rZTBv3-6aaVTW-6RCjrH-8deGWw-7vYaJe-4CYU9m-rDaGvV-2vVkpu-ei1v4J-oKtd57-iYF3j4-oEiRRP-dccfxH-5VNinY-5upg1C-kKnviR-boJ3SW-6ix7Dz-58g3mv-787FvF-7266d6-ak4yjG-bm5Ny4-hroQNT-9hoobT-kWMp44-4EtxKF-2hjUsa-4Hbzmn-9iar9h-9XyvAR-8dfh6x-pfx1Bn-3KKFFL\">IMAGE SOURCE<\/a><\/p>\n<p><b>If your friend\u2026 is suffering from a mental health problem<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mental health is a very large umbrella term, and it incorporates all sorts of different things. Think of it as an equivalent term to cancer. There are many <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/lung-cancer-awareness-month-observed\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">different types of cancers<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and each affects the mind, body and soul different. Well, so do the different types of mental illness. Just because you can\u2019t see a lump or a scar, it doesn\u2019t mean they are not there. People suffering from mental illnesses worry greatly about how they will be perceived by others. They also worry that they will be judged, or thought badly of. This is why one of the best things you can do in this scenario is to make it clear that you think no less of them. This goes for whether or not you spots signs and symptoms and bring it up with them, or if they come to you. Whichever, make sure you are available for them 24\/7 while they work their way through it. They may need a hug or a cry, but they may just want to go for a coffee. Let them know you\u2019re available to <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.mind.org.uk\/information-support\/helping-someone-else\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">support them<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> however they want, whenever it is they want it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>If your friend\u2026 is drinking too much<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can be tricky to tell the difference between enjoying a drink, binge-drinking, and impending alcoholism. While a touchy and delicate subject, it is part of your responsibility to watch out for these things. After all, too much alcohol can cause things from blood poisoning to blackouts to addiction. Similarly, if your friend comes to you have spotted a problem themselves, they will need your help and support more than ever to quit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.stopdrinkingexpert.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how to stop drinking alcohol<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, different things work for different people. As well as providing your friend with solutions, you must reassure them that it\u2019s okay if it doesn\u2019t work straight away. It may take a period of trial and error until they find a technique or method that helps them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>If your friend\u2026 is struggling in their relationship<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your friend is having <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.wsj.com\/articles\/be-there-for-a-friends-relationship-crisis-but-dont-give-advice-1423504783\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">trouble with their relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or love life, there is probably not much you can do to help. After all, a relationship is between two people, not two people and a best friend. With this in mind, the most valuable thing you can do for your friend is to listen to them. Give advice if you feel like you have something valuable to offer, and if they seem receptive. Do remember, though, when listening to them and giving advice, to be careful. Even if they are ranting and raving about their partner, keep an eye on what you say. If they make up with them, they will probably forget what they said to you. However, they might not forget what you said. Agree with their sentiments if you wish, but don\u2019t let your own rant take over. It could make for some awkward dinner parties further down the line otherwise.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mental health is a very large umbrella term, and it incorporates all sorts of different things. Think of it as an equivalent term to cancer. There are many different types of cancers, and each affects the mind, body and soul different. Well, so do the different types of mental illness. Just because you can\u2019t see a lump or a scar, it doesn\u2019t mean they are not there. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":18,"featured_media":1454,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[35],"tags":[849,19,848,850,20],"class_list":["post-1453","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-wellness-2","tag-alcoholism","tag-health","tag-mental-health","tag-relationship-problems","tag-wellness"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1453","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/18"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1453"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1453\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1455,"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1453\/revisions\/1455"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1454"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1453"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1453"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/zestmag.com\/online\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1453"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}